July 23, 2005

I actually walked in on people robbing my home a few years ago. They were just as surprised as I was. I ran out the front, they ran out the back. The nearest police station is about 5 minutes away, but since I live in the county jurisdiction and not the city, it took the bastards over 30 minutes to arrive.

Now I wish the motherfuckers would come back.

This is why neighborhood watchs work, armed citizens willing to protect themselves, their property and each other.

I have a better story Dave. My uncle is the Chief of my towns police, but we live out in the boonies. We called the cops (on my sister no less) and they called back and asked for DIRECTIONS!!! Now that is fucked up.

We caught a couple of nice fellows cleaning out our garage upon our return. They were loading boxes into the back of a pickup.

Cops never caught em.

Thank god the boxes were full of garbage from the past week's cleaning.

I got my first gun the next day. A .22 rifle from an unsavory character.

My wife learned how to fire weapons DIRECTLY after we had our baby.

My son will learn on a pellet gun, moving up to a rifle after he is responsible enough.

I never really thought about owning a gun until I walked in on the guys. Not anti-gun, just never really saw the need. I bought a .45 the next day. I enjoyed shooting it so much I started to collect a few and take them to the range. Now I have a 45, and two 22 pistols, as well as a M-4, a AK-47 and a 22 semi rifle.

Rob,

Below is a quote from a post beneath that I have placed here as I didn't want you to miss my comment. The post it belongs to is a resonable way down your page.

10) How many people ever stood up to a bully and never had to fight him again? Even when you lost the fight. How many people have balls enough to do that today?

How do you do this? I'm trying to at the moment at work. It's a guy but he is bullying me in a way that I have only ever seen bitchy females behave before. Underhanded and cunning with mind games. In that men and women have bad traites particular to their sex and this in one I have only ever seen in other women before. Before he jus bullied me but now he is going around and talking to everyone and trying make everyone dislike me and attacke me. I feel isolated he had two people that joined in straight away now a third just joined his group on friday. A very weak male whom he use to bully and whom I always treated with respect. The other two are females. The other so far are staying neutural and somethimes I think they feel guilty and he must be saying things stirring trouble, because the will come up and act all nice to me for no reason.

How do you do that how do you stand up? I so far have just matched his behaviour and it keeps escalating. Everytime he lowers the lever of behaviour and insults me, I match it. He is seekin me out now he has henchmen and they join in and giggle.

This is the part of the quote I found interesting. About never having to fight him again even if you lose. How do you do that? Your ex-wife exhibits the behaviour like this man. You said once way back she would walk up all nice like and say "helllllorrrrow". He does in front of the upper management, then tries to blindside me when the are not around. Worst of all his two and now three henchmen and his office are direclt surrounding myn against the wall in a semi cirlcle with him behind them against the opposite wall. He comes up to me and stands really close to me almost touching not talking throws the documents he has to hand to me across my table leans against me desk, and continues to carry on a conversation with his male henchman whilst ignoring me, whilist still leaning against me desk. Then the henchman ignores me then the walk away eventually, if I say anything they ignore me. This is not done while any neuturals or management are around, not this bad anyway. He is senior to me in rank but not my manager. I have a degree he did not complete highschool and is not quailified for his position. Maybe you can help me since you worked in a huge company. Thanks for any advice you can give.

I have reposted my request for advice again because I was embarrassed about the spelling mistakes. I usually can spell quite competently *holds head in hands and shakes head* but I am rather stressed at the thought of going to work after the weekend. Last night I woke up at 2.00 a.m. with my heart pounding in my chest, it was thudding as thought I had just run a long short race but worse then that. If I ask to be moved geographically will it get worse? I am not sleeping and I am tired and work and this is causing me to make mistakes.

Rob,
Below is a quote from a post beneath that I have placed here as I didn't want you to miss my comment. The post it belongs to is a reasonable way down your page.
10) How many people ever stood up to a bully and never had to fight him again? Even when you lost the fight. How many people have balls enough to do that today?
How do you do this? I'm trying to at the moment at work. It's a guy but he is bullying me in a way that I have only ever seen bitchy females behave before, underhanded and cunning with mind games. In that men and women have bad traits particular to their sex and this in one I have only ever seen in other women before. Before he just bullied me but now he is going around and talking to everyone and trying to make everyone dislike me and attack me. I feel isolated he had two people that joined in straight away now a third just joined his group on Friday. A very weak male whom he use to bully and whom I always treated with respect, the other two are females. The others so far are staying neutral and sometimes I think they feel guilty and he must be saying things stirring trouble, because the will come up and act all nice to me for no reason.
How do you do that how do you stand up? I so far have just matched his behavior and it keeps escalating. Every time he lowers the lever of behavior and insults me, I match it. He is seeking me out now he has henchmen and they join in and giggle.
This is the part of the quote I found interesting, about never having to fight him again even if you lose. How do you do that? Your ex-wife exhibits the behaviour like this man. You said once way back she would walk up all nice like and say "helllllorrrrow". He does in front of the upper management, then tries to blindside me when they are not around. Worst of all his two and now three henchmen and his office are directly surrounding my office against the wall in a semi circle with him behind them against the opposite wall. He comes up to me and stands really close to me almost touching not talking throws the documents he has to hand to me across my table leans against my desk, and continues to carry on a conversation with his male henchman whilst ignoring me, whilst still leaning against my desk. Then the henchman ignores me then they walk away eventually, if I say anything they ignore me. This is not done while any neutrals or management are around, not this bad anyway. He is senior to me in rank but not my manager. I have a degree he did not complete high school and is not qualified for his position. Maybe you can help me since you worked in a huge company. Thanks for any advice you can give.

"Whilst"? And "behaviour"? Something tells me we have BRIT in the woodpile here.

Jane,

Here is what I would advise you to do. Get a very large, intimidating and fit man. Have him pose as your brother/boyfriend/cousin or whatever.

Arrange to walk out of work at the same time as Mr. Asshole. Have your large friend walk up to you and give you a big hug and tell you he loves you. Then introduce him to Mr. Asshole.

Large man grabs Mr. Asshole's hand very firmly and says, "Nice to meet you. Jane has told me all about you. Maybe we can go out and get a drink sometime."

You get bonus points if Large man brings along other large friends riding Harleys.

Here in America our cops will show up after you are dead . . .

In London, England, the cops skip the middle-man bad guy, and shoot YOU dead. Then, of course, it is "regrettable."

*Kudos to FOX News for their "fair and balanced" reporting yesterday.

Jane, RIS is semi-correct. His plan will work. But a BETTER one is when YOU kick him square in the nuts, jump on him like white on rice, claw at his face , start screaming like a maniac and yelling "SEXUAL HARASSMENT!!!" at the top of your lungs.

That'll put an end to that shit. And I'll bet YOU keep you job while HE loses his.

Play the cards you're dealt, darlin.'

You don't have to take that shit.

I have a rather good security system. It's programmed to defend and potentially kill, but not attack, and gives plenty of warning. It does about 32 MPH for a good 7 miles, then drops down to 23 or so for the next 7, so getting away without incident is pretty hard, should you trip the alarm. It's getting a bit old though, so I recently upgraded. The upgrade about doubled the maintenance costs, but I feel it's worth it. I own a 4x4 truck, so the entire system is completely transportable.

The point is I didn't move to a better neighborhood, I made the neighborhood better. No more petty stuff from the kids at the neighbors' house's, nobody thinking of stealing anything, nothing. I did have to build a heated box to house the system, which resides outside, and heat a bucket of water. Like I said, it works well.

Not everybody has time to maintain a preventative system like this. When you can't, at least be able to defend yourself with a reactive system. If you feel you need a gun as part of your defense, learn how to properly use it first. A gun, or any other weapon, does you no good if you don't thoroughly understand it. Second, don't panic and shoot something you shouldn't. Once you pull the trigger you can't un-pull the trigger. Third, if possible, use bullets that explode inside of walls instead of going through them, so if you miss you don't kill a neighbor. These are usually called "pre-fragmented bullets." Fourth, use common sense. Try to avoid a conflict if possible, or at least set your surroundings up so you're notified that one is going to happen. Thieves stumbling over furniture or brushing against an object that rolls off a shelf and hits the floor with a good thud helps. Remember that just because you can defend yourself doesn't mean you'll be successful at doing it. It does, however, give you a much better chance of not having to defend yourself in the first place.