Gut Rumbles

July 23, 2005

"naughty" behavior

I've never believed that ANYTHING sexual between consenting adults was "naughty." I'm an adventurous man, and I like exploring new things with an adventurous woman. I'll try almost anything once, and keep doing it if I like it and my partner does, too.

I don't believe that I ever had a safe word other than, "No. I don't want to do that." That was good enough for me, although I am well aware that "NO" sometimes means "Yes, if you'll persuade me."

I never wanted to go through that charade. If you want to try it, SAY SO. If you don't, then say THAT, too. I'll take you at your word.

I've never raped a woman in my life. Never even CONSIDERED that idea. I may have "taken advantage" of a few, but they seemed perfectly willing at the time, and their protestations came later, when they sobered up and realized what they had done. That's why I always cast a skeptical eye on wimmen who cry "RAPE!"

Yeah, I know. I'm going to piss off a lot of wimmen here, but that shit always sounds to me like "sin in haste and repent at leisure" stuff to me.


As a woman, there are times that I, too, cast a wondering eye at women that cry date rape. Actual rape by a stranger, I nevr doubt. But those like the woman that accused Kobe Bryant. I wonder if they are telling the truth, or just trying to make themselves feel better.

Posted by: drc on July 23, 2005 06:26 PM

Never even had morning-after regrets, myself.

At least , I THINK I didn't.

The old memory is fading fast, it's so long ago.

Posted by: Kim du Toit on July 23, 2005 06:27 PM

the safe words are for fetish scenes when it's pre-agreed that a simulated "rape" will take place, and so the protestations are part of the "rape" scene - but if it goes too far, one of the people can yell out "fishsticks!" or some other ridiculous, non-contextually-appropriate phrase or word so that the scene ends.

but i'm sure you knew that. i don't know any non-fetish folks who have a "safe word." what's the point of that?

Posted by: i bite my lip on July 23, 2005 07:31 PM

I am a woman and I was raped when I was 15. I am 20 now and let me tell you one thing about women who cry "rape". I was raped by a someone I trusted and knew and it screwed me up for a good long time. NOTHING pisses me off more than when a woman, just trying to make it seem like she wasn't a trollop the night before, says she was raped. I was sober and said NO more than once but it didn't stop him, the lowly piece of shit. I don't feel bad for women who are just to scared to say "yah i had sex with him whats it to you?" freakin' weenies, take some personal responsibility for your dumb ass decisions and let the women who are truly traumatized get through and get counseling. Like I said, NOTHING pisses me off more.

Posted by: Shelley on July 23, 2005 07:49 PM

Crikey! My post was NOT about rape!

The scenarios I was describing are fun and between consenting adults.

I mean....crikey! Not at ALL where I was going with that!!!!!

Posted by: blondage on July 23, 2005 09:17 PM

Some shrinks say that rape is more of an act of violence than of sex. Something about a control issue. Don't know, I'm not a shrink. But I do figure there are some cases where it was not rape until the check bounced.

Posted by: GUYK on July 23, 2005 09:18 PM

The way I see it, the "naughtier" the better!

Posted by: Bichee on July 24, 2005 12:58 AM

While I have great sympathy for any woman attacked by some low-life piece of shit, I have always been skeptical of some of the things I have read. I think there is a lot of 'Prince and Frog' about this;you know what I mean, seen through the rosy glow of 6 vodkas and a fruit flip, he's a prince, wake up next to his snoring, farting carcass in the morning, and he's a frog. Since all the cool, with-it women would never willingly go to bed with a frog, well, it MUST have been rape.
I have particular problems with cases which are brought only years (sometimes decades) after the events, how is that shit allowed, where is the presumption of innocence there.
And dont get me going on this 'most rapes arent reported ' shit either;if they arent reported, they didnt happen, PERIOD. There are too many man hating organisations making hay out of all these supposed' unreported' rapes 'poor baby me, how we suffer, those horrid men'
Here is a clue ladies: Most men(ALL who are real MEN) hols rapists in utter contempt, and we are more than willing to accept what you say about who and when, as long as there is evidence! Just dont expect us to be held culpable simply for having a dick, or to accept the most obvious railroading just because YOU made a damned stupid choice.

rant off/

Posted by: robert in england on July 24, 2005 07:14 AM

Let me ask if these qualify as "safe words."

1. "Please do not put anything in my butt."

2. "Please do not put anything ELSE in my butt."

Posted by: Steve H. on July 24, 2005 01:45 PM
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