Gut Rumbles

July 20, 2003

i grow maudlin

Perspective is an amazing thing. As I grow older, I care more deeply about certain things than I ever did before, but others don't matter diddly-squat anymore. I've probably had my last bar-fight. There was a time when I would take no shit from nobody and rather absorb an ass-whuppin' than walk away from a challenge.

Today, I'll walk away and never even look over my shoulder. I KNOW who I am now. I don't have to prove it to anybody else.

After my visit with Ken, I've been thinking a lot about the concept of love. Not LOVE itself, but the idea of it. Ken is quite the philosopher and he put an eggbeater in my head. Don't drink a lot of wine and sit around talking with him. He'll make you decide:

*Love comes in lots of flavors. If you don't know what I mean by that, you don't understand love.

*You can love someone and still get very pissed off at them. If you STAY pissed off, you never loved them to begin with. Love is tough sometimes.

*Loving someone is better than being loved. I cannot imagine a better feeling than to look at someone and think, "I love her." Even if she doesn't love you back, you are the better person. You grew a soul.

*Kids love you because they are supposed to. If you gain your child's RESPECT when the child is grown, you've been a good, loving parent.

*You can love someone without doting on them. Sometimes you have to love from a distance.

*If you love someone, TELL THEM that you do. Otherwise, they'll never know for sure.

*Be selective about where you spend your love. Love isn't alms for the poor and it isn't charity for the needy. It is YOUR LOVE, which is a precious commodity that you share only with those who deserve it by YOUR STANDARDS. You never GIVE it away. You REWARD someone with it.

*Love also is something that you'll never run out of, no matter how much you give. In fact, the more you give, the more love you have to take its place.

Love. The best and most dangerous four-letter word I know.


That's not maudlin, that's just what is!

Posted by: MommaBear on July 20, 2003 01:42 PM


Posted by: Jett on July 20, 2003 02:49 PM

Makes total sense.

Posted by: Da Goddess on July 20, 2003 04:02 PM

D - A - M - N!

Next thing you'll be confessing to taking up needlepoint, or some other sissy sport like crochet. Get to a doctor and get some testosterone for crying out loud.

Absorb an ass-whuppin'? Exactly what is wrong with dishing one out? What the hell did they do to you in that hospital any way - force you to watch Oprah?

Acidman? Very weak acid if you ask me.

Posted by: Buster on July 20, 2003 05:48 PM

Buster, you'll figure it out if you live long enough. And if you want to learn about ass whuppins, I'll be happy to show you one.

Weak acid, my ass. Just TRY ME, Junior.

Posted by: Acidman on July 20, 2003 07:07 PM

Wonderfully worded. Especially the last sentence.

Posted by: Dawn on July 20, 2003 07:32 PM

Figure out what? How to embrace Oprah? No thanks you dust farting old softy. I think them drugs done went to your melon, or they were laced with estrogen.

Being possessed of indomitable spirit, I always get up one more time than I am knocked down. I had thought you were cut from similar cloth. Sounds recently like you have become a born-again believer in the Church of the Sensitive Man.

If a woman thinks you are making total sense, then you are doing something wrong. Alarm bells should have been going off on that one. But hey, if you want to wimp out, it's a free country.

Posted by: Buster on July 20, 2003 07:42 PM

Yeah, I grew some maudlin once, too. I'm glad to see somebody still grows that shit.

Posted by: Hank on July 20, 2003 07:57 PM

Buster and Hank: Grow the fuck up. You two are pathetic. Do you REALLY think that you are bigger men because you are "tough" and show no feelings? I will get down on my KNEES and PRAY to God that my son NEVER utters words like you two insecure bastards. At least Acidman has the BALLS to express himself. Now THAT is a real man. PS I am guessing you two are, what, 20? 22? Women in this world respect MEN, not boys. Go find Brittney Spears or Beyonce if you want to impress a woman.

Posted by: Beth on July 20, 2003 08:28 PM

It took me a while to learn it isn't "alms for the poor" that was perfect. Beth is right real women respect Men who are secure enough to express and feel love

Posted by: bren on July 20, 2003 08:54 PM

I hope this feeling you have lasts a good long while, it's hard to keep, sometimes I feel like I'm walking around half asleep, I know because there are times when I *see* so much more. I know I need to treasure this time with my kids, I know I want more time with my brother...just so many things...
I know Mondays aren't your favorite but let this one be different...It's all in our heads ya know.. : )

Posted by: Trease on July 20, 2003 08:57 PM

This is an argument between two men, two women, and an oldie. thirteen year old boy shouldn't get into this. Everyone has the exact beliefs they probably should for their sex and age.

Posted by: clay whitaker on July 20, 2003 09:26 PM

Loving someone is better than being loved.

Gotta call BS on that one. Been there, done that, it blows. Especially when a BC is involved.

Posted by: Mr. Lion on July 20, 2003 10:15 PM

Gee, Beth, lighten up. My post was humor. You know, huuuumor? You see...I looked at the title of the post and noted the little double meaning there, and thought I'd exploit it for the humor of it all.

Then what happens? Beth thunders in and rips my head off. And I'm the insensitive one? Harumph. I'm not sure if you noticed, Beth, but I did not denigrate Rob in my post.

So what do you want me to do, Beth? Perhaps label my future posts so there is no doubt as to my intention? Next time, maybe I should label such a post as follows:

Note: This Post is HUMOR. Please Do Not MISCONSTRUE It.

Give that ol' flamethrower a rest, Beth. Better yet, get that hair-trigger on it fixed.

Posted by: Hank on July 20, 2003 10:17 PM

Everything seems true here; I'm not old enough to have experienced all that is described, but it goes along with what I have, especially that about a parent earning respect. I truely hope to someday earn my child's respect for a proper, loving, and educational childhood. I would be interested to hear what you have to say about being in "lust" Acidman, mostly because I am much more familiar with that.

Posted by: Jen on July 20, 2003 10:57 PM

Great post Acidman. "Love is reverence, and worship, and glory, and the upward glance. Not a bandage for dirty sores." Ayn Rand from "The Fountainhead".

Posted by: Ruth on July 21, 2003 12:28 AM

Well, I'll be dipped! You do have a heart. ;)

Posted by: Sonia on July 21, 2003 01:58 AM
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