June 10, 2006
I wanna update this post because I feel kinda guilty about writing it. Neither my mama, my grandmother nor my aunts EVER abused me when I was a child.
Oh, they TORE MY ASS UP frequently, using willow switches, wooden spoons, a Bo-Lo paddle, a belt or a bare hand, but they did it for my own good. I know that for a fact, because they TOLD ME SO, while they were beating the livin' shit outta me, as I danced a crying jig in a circle while being held by one arm.
Did YOUR folks ever say what I heard? "This hurts ME worse than it does YOU!"
I never yelled "BULLSHIT!" at the time, because I was smart enough to know NOT to pull that kinda smart-mouth if I ever wanted the whippin' to stop, but I damn sure THOUGHT IT a lot. I was the one getting welts like worms laid on ME. How the hell could that possibly hurt Mama worse than it did me?
She wasn't the one being held by one arm and dancing in a circle while getting hunks of hide tore offa HER bottom. But I remember her crying a few times when she spanked me.
Doing that really DID break her heart.
Looking back now, I had it coming. I richly deserved every spanking I ever got, and if the truth be told, I missed out on a lot of others that I SHOULD have gotten, but I wasn't caught doing the spank-worthy things I did.
It's tough being a good parent.
I'll bet it is.
I also believe it's good to be a tough parent, like ours were.
My mamma bet my ass on a semi-regular basis. She used to wield a thick, slotted plastic kitchen spoon that would leave marks on my ass for a week, though she broke a few hairbrushes on my ass as well. The irritating thing was that she'd do it when she was pissed off at my step-father, not when I actually did something wrong. Didn't screw me up in the head though (the Y chromosome helps there). There was plenty of stuff I was doing that I needed my ass beat for that she didn't know about, so I figured it was a wash.
Don't feel bad about that post. Most of us who were whipped as kids know we richly deserved it. My mom may have spanked me a few times for things I didn't do, but I got away with enough stuff that i figure it was just about even.
I know for a fact that it tears you up as a parent to have to spank your kids. IT always has made me feel like crap, every time, but in my job, I"ve worked with a lot of kids who didn't have parents who loved them enough to discipline them....Spanking sucks when you're a kid, but when you become an adult, you realize that you're grateful for those spankings because they kept you from being a hooligan or a thug.
Kevin--- you're new around here, ain't ya? Or is you BETH, gettin' around my blacklist?
Whatever. Your mama needs to be spanked for not raisin' YOU right.
Rub some dirt on THAT!!!
Good for YOU, Kevin. I just blacklisted your ass, which oughta make both your life and MINE a lot better.
Yeah but the rewards are oh so worth it.
My dad gave us the speech before a beatin.
"Some people tell their kids that this is going to hurt them (the parents) more than it will hurt you. (the kids) They just aren't doing something right!"
Well you got that right Acidman. It is tough to be a good parent.
Good to remember mama! She used a rope usually and she would hit me across the calf of the legs. Boy, you had to dance a jig. She would whip till you cried , then whip till you quit crying. I didn't mind getting one from my dad, but I would beg, to no avail, when my mama was getting ready to give me a whuppin.
I remember the Bo-Lo paddles. And belts. Backs of hairbrushes. I think that's a bit extreme, but I also believe in "spare the rod, spoil the child." All we have to do is look around us to see that.