Gut Rumbles

May 05, 2006

child support

At the end of last month, I noticed that my April child support check still had not cleared the bank. I sent it off with a letter I wrote to my son, so I wondered if the darlin' ex-wife simply saw the letter and threw it away, along with the check. I hoped not, because it's been a while since she sent sheriff's deputies to my house, and I would prefer to keep it that way.

I sent her an email at work, asking about the check. She replied a day later, saying that she received the check and she just hadn't gotten around to depositing it yet. (That's how badly she needs the money--- that check STILL has not cleared.) I noticed from the address on the email that she must have remarried, because she has a new last name now.

I resent like hell paying her that money. I see it as a got-dam award for shitting all over me. But it could be worse. I could be paying her for somebody else's son.

Florida would become the 17th state since 2001 to alter a centuries-old legal principle that holds men responsible for children born of a marriage regardless of whether the men are the biological fathers, says the Center for Law and Social Policy (CLASP) in Washington, D.C. The principle, which comes from English common law, is designed to keep children from being left without support.

You GO, Florida. I resented being treated as nothing more than a human money-tree in divorce court, and Quinton is MINE (At least I'm pretty sure he is.) If I went through that same experience over a child fathered by somebody else, I might nut up and go postal.

Divorce law treats fathers badly enough when they ARE the daddies. It's a double-clutch fucking when they aren't. That crap just ain't right.

Of course, a woman would NEVER lie to a man about who is the father of her baby, just as a woman would never lie about rape, either.


Wait a second, if she's remarried, doesn't that let you off the hook? (I know you love your son and you'd still provide for him, just maybe not through her.)

Posted by: disconnect on May 5, 2006 08:43 AM

Fucking ransom for sure. You may want to check out Senate Bill 382. Gather your ducks and such.

Posted by: Tesa on May 5, 2006 09:20 AM

The only way that marriage affects my child support is if I allow the new hubby to ADOPT Quinton as HIS son. And that ain't gonna happen.

Posted by: Acidman on May 5, 2006 09:23 AM

I know several men who came to Florida and became day labor bums because of court ordered child support for children that were not theirs. And that is all these men have to look forward to for the rest of their lives unless they do as a couple I know that managed to get new identities and SSN but even so they live in fear that a court from another state will catch up with them and take everything they have ..over child support for someone else's child.

English law has some good points but this ain't one of them.

Posted by: GUYK on May 5, 2006 10:13 AM

Wait a second, if she's remarried, doesn't that let you off the hook?

That's alimony, not child support. The only way out of child support, as Rob says, is that the new guy adopts Quinton -- or when Quinton turns ... is it 18 in Georgia, or 21? 25?



Posted by: McGehee on May 5, 2006 12:00 PM

And yet there are some of us women who try to do right by our Exes. Just sayin'....

Posted by: LL on May 5, 2006 02:48 PM

That's unbelievable - I can't believe how they can make a man pay for another man's child. That's just ridiculous!

Posted by: Lisa on May 5, 2006 04:03 PM

Stay single. Stay free.

Posted by: Tom on May 5, 2006 05:04 PM

F'ed Up Laws always seem to originate and spawn from organizations with an acronym, don't they:

Center for Law and Social Policy (CLASP) in Washington, D.C.

Posted by: David Drake on May 5, 2006 09:04 PM

It should be no surprise to anyone that California has the same law. I have a buddy that paid child support for 15 years even though the court ordered DNA test proved he was not the father.

Posted by: Bob on May 6, 2006 03:38 AM

Maybe so LL, but just as there were a few a Germans like Shindler that had compassion for the Jews, there are few females that will not cooperate and encourage the family court gestapo.

Posted by: Ivan Ivanovich on May 6, 2006 08:45 AM
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