November 16, 2005
Young Girls: Don't Let this Happen to You
I can't wait to see the new and improved Rob, the one with some meat on his scrawny behind.
Now for the crazy stuff going on in the world. I'm sure that everyone has heard/read about the eighteen-year-old who murdered the parents of his fourteen-year-old girlfriend. If you haven't, here's the story.
It's yet another story that should strike fear in the parents of girls and in the girls themselves. Too often when I hear one of these stories about a child or a parent ending up murdered, it's because of someone that some member of the family allowed into their lives. In many cases, it's a shady boyfriend of a single mother; some ex-con, crack-/meth-head, etc. who molests and murders one of the young daughters. In this one, obviously, it was someone who the child herself--hormones raging--allowed in.
It would be easy to be judgmental about Kara Beth Borden, but I remember being fourteen. I was "falling in love" every week. In my case, however, it was usually futile; I was the ugly duckling--scrawny myself, and acne-prone--so most boys didn't take notice of me. (In hindsight, it seems like a blessing.) However, in later years--after I had filled out and figured out what to do with myself--I gave my parents the blues in this area, as did my sisters after me. By the grace of God or by dumb luck on our part (most likely the latter) none of our suitors tried to kill our parents.
Poor Miss Borden's saga should stand as a cautionary tale; not just for parents--it appears that the late Bordens were good parents and were trying to nip the relationship in the bud--but for all young girls themselves. I'm sure that it never occured to young Miss Borden that her "love" would turn into a monster. And, at fourteen, a girl's "a**hole-detecter" isn't even honed, anyway. (Mine needed calibration long after age fourteen.) That's why it was up to Borden's parents to keep guard on their children--the main parental task.
Well, the Bordens tried to live up to their responsibilities and they paid for it. Unfortunately for Kara Beth, she will have to live with her teenaged folly for the rest of her life, as will her four siblings.
It's times like these when I'm happy to be childless. But I have nieces (and nephews) for whom I pray everyday. However, I'm reminded that calamity falls on the just and the unjust alike.
Young girls: your parents know better than you (in most cases), especially when it comes to grown men--or even not-so-grown men. You don't want to end up like Kara Beth Borden, not to mention ending up a pregnant teenager.
I'll leave it to a man to preach to the potential David Ludwigs of the world.
Very sage commentary Juliette and words to live by folks.
Sadly, stories like these don't particularly shock me anymore.
What a tragedy all the way around, it seems that this is the norm rather than the exception. Thanks for posting this very wise advice Juliette.
Kara's dad, Mike, was the General Manager at the company I work for. He was a great guy. This is such a tremendous loss in more ways than one.
Yet one more reason I do not want to have children of my own.
"I'll leave it to a man to preach to the potential David Ludwigs of the world."
Not much to preach, other than this.
If you're 18 years old, and you're sniffing around my 14 year old daughter, you'd best have your affairs in order, son. 'Cuz I've got a shotgun, a shovel, and 8 acres of woods behind my house.
There's no way in hell you're getting the first shot off.
Think "Fargo" and "woodchipper".
And as a parting shot, from the article:
"Lancaster County District Attorney Donald R. Totaro is sympathetic to the orphaned Borden children. In addition to Kara, they include Katelyn, 13; David, 11; and Justin and James, who are in their early 20s."
It would not sadden me in the least if either of the two elder brothers were to line up Ludwig's worthless melon in the sights of a .30-06 and splatter his grey matter all over the courthouse steps.
Nor should they be prosecuted for doing same.
Interestingly enough, it's been almost 50 years since the Charlie Starkweather/Caril Ann Fugate murder spree. Starkweather murdered Fugate's family (and others). Starkweather was executed & Fugate did time. Terence Malick's film Badlands is based on the killings.
People are the same. Only the names change.
And I thought I was the only one who remembered Charlie Starkweather! He was one of the first of the "modern" spree killers, and the whole nation was in an uproar ... and history keeps repeating itself ... and we keep ignorning the lessons ...
As a side note, if you google starkweather in the news stories on Ludwig, only one member of the MSM (a Philadelphia newspaper) makes mention of it.
Don't you just love a well informed press?
I watched this story unfold as my 12 yr old daughter chatted with friends on her computer. I think of myself as a fairly aware parent, and yet.... I walk over and read over her shoulder. I stop in to her room when she is on the phone just to say hi. I give her space, but her privacy ends where *I* say it does, and until she is an adult, and on her own, it will be an earned privledge, not a right.
Even with all the precautions in the world, I still keep the shotgun handy guys, and did I mention the *really* big dog? Age and treachery will overcome youth and speed every time, and I don't play fair, not where my baby girl is concerned.
I heard the public deffender on the news trying for sympathy, saying that the young man is "scared and confused." Really? Is that why he went to that house with a gun in his pocket? WIth a knife in the car? Sounds more like angry and out for trouble, to me, but we will have to let the court decide.
To the Ludwigs of the world:
Force is only justified in defense of individual rights.
If you believe otherwise, you are a criminal.
Did anyone ever notice that the girlfriend (you know, daughter of the murdered) poses out exactly like Paris Hilton?
Derbyshire's right: the apocalypse is nigh.
I read an article about this in USA Today the other day. The entire article was about the murders and the fact that the kid's father had a bunch of guns in the house. The article rotated back and forth between the two: the murders, the number guns his father had; the murders, the kind of guns his father had, etc. Very interesting how the stupid media does shit like this. Had I not known better (you know there are some stupid people out there who don't know better) then I would have ended that article thinking that the father having guns in the house is the reason why the kid murdered the girls parents.
Good post Juliette. And good advice.