July 30, 2005
I found this question on her blog and thought of several ways to answer it, all of which are true.
"So tell me - how do you react when you screw up?"
#1) Feel like an ass and become very contrite. Apologize to everyone affected by my screw up. Try to remember NEVER to screw up like that again.
#2) Take it like a man. I did the dance, so now I pay the band. Accept the consequences. Try to remember NEVER to screw up like that again.
#3) Become angry. Even though I KNOW it was my fault, get pissed at the world in general and pitch a hissy-fit. Stew and fret for a while, then try to remember NEVER to screw up like that again.
#4) Pout. Attempt to justify my screw-up by thinking that it wasn't ALL my fault, and people do worse things every day. Whine on my blog. Then, try to remember NEVER to screw up like that again.
How I react to a screw-up all depends on what kind of screw-up it was and my mood at the time. I don't handle such things the same way every time.
But I DO try to remember never to screw up like that again.
Yeah, depends on how I screwed up and who it affects. I try to live by an ethical code keeps me from saying anything about anybody that I wouldn't say to their face. And, if I am wrong then I have no problems admitting it and offering my apologies. If it is a fuckup that envolves just me I use foul language and insult the ancestry of inanimate objects.
Mostly, I rave and rant at myself so viciously that nobody else dares to criticize me, because I'm already doing such a great job of it.
The best part is, I can then claim to be taking responsibility for my actions.
Wanna define one of your screw ups?
I'll get back to you if I ever screw up.
The most important theme in all of those responses - Try to never make that same mistake again. I try to live by that every day. I figure mistakes are just learning experiences, as long as you do so.
I know I will never try to fast draw with a .357 magnum again. My right leg will testify to that fact. Luckily it is still atached to me! You live and learn I guess.
Misty, I married a bloodless cunt. THAT was a serious screw-up.
What about the smaller, day-to-day screw-ups? You know... like delinking/badmouthing handfuls of people who have been good friends to you? Any contrition at all there?
I'm giving you the benefit of the doubt, because I think so.
I'm just waiting for the evidence.
(BTW, if you've answered that via email, my bad. I don't check alltel on the weekend.)
I'm with Chablis. I usually do #1 or #2 depending on the situation. When I fuck up, I know its my fault and I admit it and cuss myself for awhile. The older I get, the less I fuck up. Maybe one day I'll be perfect. One can only hope.