Gut Rumbles

June 09, 2005

temper tantrums

I've been know to pitch temper tantrums on this blog. But when I get pissed off, I never throw things or break something. I don't understand people who do, but I know a lot of them--- and most of them are wimmen. How does destroying something you own make you feel better when you're pissed off?

I confess-- I have sent a few golf clubs doing the helicopter through the air in my time, but I never broke a club and I always threw them in the direction I was headed, so that I didn't have to go out of my way to pick them up and put them back in my bag.

You see this kind of scene in movies all the time. Somebody is pissed off, so that person breaks a few dishes, turns over a table, throws flower pots against the wall and trashes the place like some drugged-up rock musician. Then, that person sits amid the rubble and weeps.

Why? If breaking things when you're angry makes you feel better, you should be absolutely ecstatic once you've turned your own house and your own possessions into trash and broken glass. By Bejus, THAT fixes your problem, doesn't it?

Evidently not, because the self-vandalizer always ends up crying in the end. I'd cry too, once I got over my tantrum and realized that breaking stuff didn't do ANYTHING to cure my problem, but it left me one hell of a mess to clean up, and probably a trip to Wal-Mart to replace the stuff I foolishly broke.

But some people actually do that kind of crap. I don't understand them. In fact, I often think that people who behave that way DESERVE the problems they get.

Self-control is a virture. Temper tantrums are not.


I know a guy who punishes his clubs for bad shots by having the caddy drag the club around the course on the ground instead of putting it back in the bag. I guess that club could be a bad influence on the other clubs, too.

Posted by: Woody on June 9, 2005 04:24 PM

I do not throw things. I learned that lesson -- incidentally -- from MY mother.

When I was four -- or was it six?

I threw a toy on the floor in a fit of anger. Smashed it.

She said to me: "Good plan. Now you have to clean up after yourself."

And I haven't thrown ANYTHING in a fit of anger since.

Posted by: Margi on June 9, 2005 05:02 PM

I've never thrown anything during a temper tantrum...I don't even really yell. I do, however, get incredibly snarky and obnoxious. I can taunt others into throwing things at me though...good thing I have fast reflexes. My ex threw only two things at me during our marriage: a hamburger (there are still ketchup streaks across the ceiling) and a remote control. He missed on both counts, broke his remote and lost out on a meal.

What else could I do but point and laugh at him?

Posted by: Chablis on June 9, 2005 05:40 PM

I confess, I did throw a unopened can of tomato soup at my husband once. But he was lucky, I aimed it at his torso instead of that big knot-head of his. Hey, it's better than hitting him over the head with a cast iron skillet in his sleep!

Posted by: Alaska Kim on June 9, 2005 05:53 PM

I helped a buddy put a transmission in his 69 camaro one time and it wasn't playing real nice, so he had a hissy fit and started throwing parts all over his garage breaking all kinds of stuff. We finally got the tranny in once settled down, but I never did help him do anything again. I hate that kind of behavior myself.

Posted by: marcl on June 9, 2005 07:35 PM

Some years back, while working for a small town PD here in WA, I was astounded to learn that you can (and will be) arrested if you break something you own during a domestic disturbance. If, for instance, you tear the door off the medicine cabinet in the bathroom, you will be arrested for "Malicious Mischief, Domestic Violence."

I remember, as a kid in Arkansas, watching my Dad, bump his old bald head on the hood of a car he was working on, then spend the next half hour looking for the wrenches he had thrown..

Posted by: Brian on June 9, 2005 09:37 PM

I've broken a few things in my early bad tantrum days. I found the replacement of said articles to be a humbling lesson in self control.

Posted by: Velociman on June 9, 2005 11:05 PM

I used to be really good for breaking shit when pissed off, but not anymore. Breaking my cell phone and setting myself back by almost $200 pretty much cured me of that.

Posted by: JG22 on June 10, 2005 12:41 AM

I suppose you could call clamming up for a spell a "temper tantrum." I do that when I'm *really* PO'd; did it for twenty years on certain relatives.

Posted by: Juliette on June 10, 2005 02:04 AM

I just get verbally mean, I don't throw things. I can't hit walls either - my living depends on my being able to type. But geez, I've gotten really venomous at times....

The throwing things seems asinine to me. Unless it's something soft.

Posted by: Cythen on June 10, 2005 04:26 AM

I've never broken or thrown anything in a hissy fit, but used to get really wound up, sometimes to the point of snarling at innocent passers-by, until I found a punch bag and pair of boxing gloves in a charity shop :) Far better than yoga and now I can do a roundhouse again.

Posted by: Misty on June 10, 2005 05:42 AM

I'm sort of the opposite; when I get really pissed off, I clean and scrub stuff! Don't know how/why I ever started doing that (probably coz I was too poor to replace anything I broke!) but it works out for the best. Hmmm, now I know why Kevin tends to piss me off when the garage is a mess!! *L*

Posted by: Michele on June 10, 2005 07:09 AM

I don't get mad, I just try to get revenge.

Posted by: GUYK on June 10, 2005 07:25 AM

My ex really liked to throw shit. I've got the scars to prove it!

Posted by: Ed on June 10, 2005 08:04 AM

I am pretty hard to piss off. I am a big guy and I am scared I might hurt somebody if I have a tantrum. On the other hand, I have been pushed over the edge a couple of times. Thats when I either get out the baseball bat or the .44 automag. I never break my own shit unless it doesn't work anymore. The canal behind my house is full of cell phones, boom boxes and various other items that I took from assholes who were violating my personal space with them. Oh, I almost forgot, there is someones car keys in there too. Son of a bitch couldn't get it through his head not to blow the horn in my neighbors driveway at 4:00am. After I "fixed" all the lights on his car with my baseball bat and threw his keys in the canal, he learned to go knock on the door. Mostly, I am a quiet, easy going guy though.

Posted by: assrot on June 10, 2005 08:08 AM

I've shot 3 television sets. One with a .38, the other two with a 12 gauge. Justifiable telecide in my book.
It was fun watching Oprah disintegrate into rubble.
Guess I lack self control.

Posted by: Henry Blowfly on June 10, 2005 08:38 AM

I figured out a long time ago that getting angry at an inanimate object is purely a waste of time and effort. If it doesn't do what I expect it to do I just junk it. People I walk away from if I can. I'm too old to use anything but a ball bat anyway. I have been pushed a few times into a corner and like all animals I will fight when pushed.

Best way to deal with insults from nuts is to ignore them. Like a bad cold they will eventually go away if you leave them alone.

Posted by: GUYK on June 10, 2005 08:56 AM

Me, when I get angry / Frustrated / Pentup I just go up into my room and load up a computer game where I can torture a simulation or blow things up in a FPS. Better that than break / hurt real things.

That or I design a *really* evil adventure for my Sat gaming group....its good to be the GM. :)

Posted by: Mythilt on June 10, 2005 10:16 AM

"design evil adventure on the Sat gaming group... "

Posted by: Henry Blowfly on June 10, 2005 01:16 PM

Guess I'm a Philistine.

I've been known to lose my temper a time or two (ahem) and break things [koff][koff].

It's therapeutic.

And it's a helluva lot less criminal than pulling the jackass who's been tailgating you for the past 10 miles out of his car and beating him half to death on the hood of his car...

Just sayin', is all...

Posted by: Jay G on June 10, 2005 02:47 PM

I guess it's that hot Irish blood in me.

Posted by: Desert Cat on June 11, 2005 01:00 AM

I don't do that as much as I used to. But I always used to keep those cheap ($1.99/stem) wine goblets on hand (from Pier One) in case the urge to throw something (it's so satisfying to hear glass smashing, don't ask me why) struck (no pun intended) me.

Now I just go on my blog and rant about it. That's why I have the category "Annoyances". Great therapy!

Posted by: Joni on June 13, 2005 05:44 PM
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