Gut Rumbles

April 19, 2005

maybe it's just me

I do not like this kind of display. Any organized, public mourning ritual disturbs me. It reeks of masochism and I don't like that crap.

I'm a Kentucky hillbilly at heart. In Harlan County, we are no strangers to death, but I was taught from an early age that you grieve by yourself and keep your pride about you in public.

I've buried both of my parents and I will never visit their graves. They aren't THERE, in that cold ground. They are in my heart, and they will live there forever. Nothing else matters.

If this ceremony made some people feel better... well, I'm fine with that, but I don't understand why we do such things. You're not going to bring your loved ones back and we've already executed the guy who did it. Just file this one under "shit happens" and get on with your life.

Fuggeddabodit? No, never. But don't keep re-living this shit with "moments of silence."

It does no good. The dead can't hear.


Oh... the irony.

"Just file this one under "shit happens" and get on with your life."

Sounds like good advice, why not give it a shot yourself?

Posted by: Kinda, sorta, maybe on April 19, 2005 03:13 PM

It does no good. The dead can't hear.

It's not for the dead any more than funerals or wakes are for the dead.

Posted by: Arcs on April 19, 2005 04:04 PM

Kinda, Sorta, Maybe - I'm still laughing at your waaaaambulance comment from the other evening, and, you know, you are right....

Posted by: Bonita on April 19, 2005 06:36 PM

Tears of sorrow are shed for ourselves...not for the dead. They are gone and buried.

Yes, they live in our hearts. But if our hearts want to reach out to others, it is a free choice. They should NOT be chastized for their desire to lean on others sharing the same moment of grief.

It might not be for you, Acid, or for me. But if it gives them solace, they should do it.


Posted by: Maggie on April 19, 2005 07:28 PM

10 years on, it's way past time; we need to start working on the sh1te that caused that bombing, like making sure that the extremists of any walk of life think twice before repeating themselves.

Posted by: MommaBear on April 19, 2005 07:37 PM

I live in OKC, and I remember the day of the bombing...I was close enough to downtown to hear it go. I was in seventh grade at the time, and people I knew were suddenly gone, and friends or family of a lot of my classmates were gone, too.

I remember the noise on the one year anniversery, and having discussions about how people needed to move on. We need to learn from history and avoid repeating it, not stay in it until it eats us alive.

But this has happened every year, and it comes up surprisingly often...I think you hear about it around here more often than 9-11. There's a difference between remembering and clinging to pain, and I don't think many people understand it anymore.

Posted by: Samira on April 19, 2005 11:03 PM

Don't even get me started on those pissy little "roadside memorials" scattered all over the place.

Every time I see one I want to rip it out the ground and toss it in the trash.

Posted by: Kim du Toit on April 21, 2005 01:41 PM
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