Gut Rumbles

April 02, 2005

it is what it is

I have walked every pothole-riddled step of this road and I can attest that this is true. It isn't JUST, but that's the way the system works and a smart woman knows how to take advantage of it. This article is full of horror stories.

Steve Barreras paid $20,000 to support his daughter, a girl he had never met. In fact, she didn’t even exist. His ex-wife Viola Trevino took another family’s daughter to court and claimed the child as hers. New Mexico governor Bill Richardson has now ordered an investigation.

In Michigan, Terrace Hale had $300 garnished from each paycheck for three years. The money went to support a woman he's never met to raise a child he's never fathered. Now, Marilyn Stephen, director of the Michigan Office of Child Support, refuses to give Mr. Hale’s money back.

I've ranted before what a stacked deck this is.

The voice of justice and outrage asks, How could this happen in America?

The answer can be found in our nation’s 30-year crusade to extract child support payments from mostly minority, low-income fathers, men who now bear the contemptuous epithet, “Deadbeat Dads.”

A goat to scape. A stereotype. A whipping boy. I love the way America has outgrown that kind of behavior.

Of course, it’s divorce that triggers the monstrous child support machinery to lurch into motion. The rise of no-fault, unilateral divorce does not trouble the Sisterhood. In fact, they welcome it.

Over the past 50 years, the National Association of Women Lawyers has spearheaded the adoption of no-fault divorce legislation throughout the country, laws that made marital dissolution that much easier. The NAWL now notes with satisfaction, “the ideal of no-fault divorce became the guiding principle for reform of divorce laws in the majority of states.”

A growing divorce rate. Disenfranchised dads. Children lacking paternal guidance and protection. An ever-expanding child support apparatus. Careless disregard of Constitutional protections. A growing totalitarian mindset.

That’s the Matriarchy at work.

Divas, my ass.


Reminds me of a guy I knew who personally mailed his garnisment check to his ex wife to support his children who were living with him.

Then there was the guy who divorced his wife for getting pregnant with another man's baby. Yeah, he was paying child support before the baby was even born.

Posted by: StinKerr on April 2, 2005 10:57 PM

Pure fucking BULLSHIT. These judges must be fucking these women. A man has no chance in hell to overcome this bullshit, Cat.

Posted by: catfish on April 2, 2005 11:01 PM

But the matricarchical society is supposed to be a kinder and gentler mean those pure feminists have been lying to us....?

Posted by: Grumpy Old Ham on April 3, 2005 12:06 AM

Happened to a friend.Meets lady in tavern,hop in hay. Lady goes south to Michigan next day. Pregnat, has kid 9 months later. Applys for welfare 5 years later. No birth certificate for kid no welfare. Remembers my friend.State of michigan orders blood test. Now all of a sudden my friends finds out he is a father. Court orders 25,000.00 back child support plus monthly support till kids 18. Instigator and prime mover of this whole debacle State Of Michigan. True Alaska story!!

Posted by: northcountry on April 3, 2005 05:00 AM

Well you could try wearing condoms fellows. Reduces both baby making opportunities and the spread of nasty diseases. And don't all start telling me that they haven't made the rubber yet that comes in super-size-you!

Posted by: Nelly on April 3, 2005 07:14 AM

There is a place that sells custom size condoms. You print out a measuring kit, match up length and girth, and it tells you the size in a code completely meaningless if you are just someone off the street. Nobody's going to know what an M7 or a G9 is, except the people you're ordering from.

They make quite large versions.

Hey, just confirming Nelly's theory that such are available.

As for the topic itself, yeah. There's a reason I referred to my brother's ex as having "stolen" his house. Which was built on land given him by my father, and owned by him long before he met her. What he couldn't see was that she lusted after his house from the moment they met and she saw the "easy mark" bullseye on him.

There is something very wrong with a system that can steal your money for a kid who isn't yours and then *not give it back* when the truth is uncovered.

Posted by: Jay on April 3, 2005 08:57 AM

Who says rape is illegal in America? It happens every single day, to THOUSANDS of American men, and it's state-sanctioned.

Posted by: maggot on April 3, 2005 09:33 AM

The family court system = legalized larceny.

Posted by: Jim on April 3, 2005 11:12 AM

While I agree there are some stories of child support that are out-and-out ridiculous, there are also that many and more that are so unfair to the children. I was a single mom, raising 4 kids because their dad wanted a younger version. I struggled for years on haphazard child support checks, working full time a low-paying job, putting myself through college. The court system was constantly taking my ex back to court for monies owed. I finally got out of school and got a good job. I decided it wasn't worth MY time having to show up each time the court decided to take my ex back for non-support, so I told the court he could keep his money, I didn't want it. I'll be damned if I didn't have to go back to court and have a judge approve this; and guess what, MY EX SHOWED UP for that hearing, the first time he ever had!

Posted by: Michele on April 3, 2005 05:39 PM

beating a dead horse here, but i still object to the fact that to you, all women are responsible for the actions of a few, and the actions of a few say something about all women.

for the last time, being a "diva" does not make a woman manipulative. there's already a word for that: bitch.

diva's actually a term for an opera singer or female performer.

Posted by: not-troll beth on April 3, 2005 07:23 PM

The problem is that for every ex-wife from hell who abuses the system there is an ex-husband from hell who does the same thing. Married at 18. Divorced at 20 with a two year old. The father was a mechanic who would take jobs for cash so no income could be recorded. He would take positions and quit after 6 months ( the amount of time it takes to get a check garnished). He never took advantage of his visitation. He had to be forced to see his child. These are the guys that make you look bad. Just as those are the women that make us look bad. Just remember that it does happen on both sides. Not all women are your ex-wife. Not all men are my ex-husband.

Posted by: The other side on April 7, 2005 10:59 AM

Here's an update....I didn't think she could slither any lower....she proves me wrong yet again!!

An Albuquerque woman whose baby a judge said didn’t exist returned to court, asking for alimony from her ex-husband.

Viola Trevino, who last year was ordered to pay back $20,000 in child support for the baby, said Wednesday that she gave her child to her ex-husband, Steve Barreras, and his new wife, Shelly Barreras.

“He said Shelly had an operation when she was 13, that she could not have any children,” Trevino said.
Shelly Barreras didn’t buy it. “Then why wasn’t she paying me child support?” she asked. “I mean, this is the first I’ve heard that I had a child!”

The judge didn’t buy it either, ordering Trevino again to pay back the child support. She is also considering having Trevino reimburse Barreras for his attorney costs, or might fine her.

The story doesn’t end there. As Trevino left court Wednesday, two IRS agents approached her.

The IRS wouldn’t say why they approached her, but Eyewitness News 4 has found she claimed the child as a dependent on at least one tax return.

Posted by: Shelly Barreras on April 19, 2005 07:45 PM

I am engaged to a man with an exwife from hell. She was NEVER awarded child support for her three kids BUT he still gave her money or she'd threaten him with not being able to see the kids (I've seen the divorce papers ladies/gents so I know the truth).

The court system sucks. He'd have to take her to court over this and doesn't want to because of the kids - and they are little monsters just like their mom. (teenagers - not little babies-almost 18 and emotionally crippled by their emotionally abusive mother)

Did I mention the reason for the divorce? His exwife invited a man to come home and live with them while they were still married and now plays the victim since my man left her all those years back - Well DUH! If I invited a man to come home with me while I was married I guess there just MIGHT be repurcussions?

I may send her a BIG wooden cross so every time she wants to be a martyr she can go outside and nail herself on it!

The system sucks! There is NO accountability for unethical nasty behavior!

Posted by: Maggie on December 17, 2005 09:47 AM

Do you know if there is a Canadian site like this? I have a case that she runs around they get a divorce he pays support until they have their first degree in University that could take years depending on if they attend part-time or full time.She has had his Unemployment Insurance garnished so we have had 494 for the last month.

Posted by: Maureen on June 14, 2007 05:22 AM
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