Gut Rumbles

March 31, 2005

A living will

This woman explained exactly what I believe. You can like it or not, but I still go back to saying there is a big difference between living and being alive.

I have a living will. I believe that you should, too.


This is all a gut-wrenching mystery. I know that I wouldn't want any extraordinary efforts extended for my continued "survival". And, I wouldn't want to put my loved ones in the position of having to guess what my wishes were.
My mom died 15 years ago in January after a very fast illness the night we moved to this area. She had a living will. We were lucky since it didn't involve an extended illness. But, I still think about it.
Having gone through cancer surgery and signed advanced directives I certainly would not want my family to have to drag things on.
I'm conflicted about the feeding tube thing-depends on age, type of injury/illness, etc. I know if it were my children I'd hang on with every breath in my body. I would also not want to be responsible for making my family have to, essentially, deprive me of basic nutrients.

However,however, unless they have a homicide case against Michael Schiavo, which they should have presented before all this, I have a huge problem with the government being involved in this decision, at all.

I really don't know enough to be certain about this incident.

Posted by: Kim on March 31, 2005 11:17 PM

Thanks hon. I truly struggle with this. I want a living will. I just don't know where to draw the lines in it.

(Initially, I thought the idea of appointing someone else to be one's "voice" was insane. Now I wonder if that might be the way to go...a very trusted person, with nothing to gain either way, of course. : D)

Posted by: Key on April 1, 2005 12:07 AM

Unfortunately, the only "living will" I have is of the oral variety, wherein a shout hoarsely to the person next to me in the bar: DO NOT RESUCITATE!!!"

On a happy note, I have plenty of witnesses, should my attorney be able to track them down.

Posted by: Velociman on April 1, 2005 12:08 AM

I think Key, has an excellent idea. The appointing of a neutral party to speak for us in the event that we can not, should be something we all consider.
Knowing your history with you ex, I can imagine that you know all too well the heartache she could have caused your family should she have had any say so in making final decisions for you. A spouse is NOT always the person in whom we want to entrust our lives.

Posted by: wanda on April 1, 2005 03:56 AM

I have a living will...I wouldn't want my loved ones carrying that burden..I don't want them to have to face this decision..I just want them to abide by my wishes.

Posted by: sandy on April 1, 2005 04:15 AM

I have a living will and soon, all the kids will have a copy. It does spell out in detail what I want, "if I am unable to make those decisions" and appoints two of them to see that they are carried out. A copy goes to all so there were be no fighting about it later since I won't be around to kick the rears of those who might speak against it.

Posted by: Sharon on April 1, 2005 08:11 AM

Anyone interested in a living will should visit this site
You can download the PDF file for your state and fill it out. It is legally binding and you don't need some asshole lawyer.

Posted by: Gravdigr on April 1, 2005 10:39 AM

I have a feeling Acidman's living will consists of five words: "Pull the got-damned plug!"

Of course, I've been wrong before.

Posted by: Strider on April 1, 2005 05:23 PM

Strider, you ain't far off.

Posted by: Acidman on April 2, 2005 12:57 AM
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