December 24, 2004
don't tell her you've been crying...
I talked to Quinton about an hour ago. He's bouncing like a superball, all excited about Christmas, and he told me that it would be okay if I picked him up tomorrow and took him to mama's house for breakfast. My heart soared like a hawk. He seemed really happy about the idea, too.
I said that I would be there at 9:30 in the morning. Maybe Christmas could be worth a shit after all this year!
Ten minutes later, the Bloodless Cunt called. "Rob, I don't want you picking Quinton up. That's a violation of the court order and I don't know where Quinton got the idea that I said it was okay. I would rather drop him off or..."
I ended the conversation right there. I said, "Well, Merry Fucking Christmas to YOU, TOO!!! Do whatever you want to do, because that's what you're gonna do anyway. You've always enjoyed hurting other people. After all, you ARE the center of the universe," and I hung up the phone. Then, I cried like a baby.
Mama called almost as soon as I hung up the phone. "Guess who I just talked to?" she asked excitedly. I tried to straighten out my voice and get my vision working again.
"Probably Quinton," I responded. "But, mama, he's a little off-target about tomorrow. I'll be there, but he won't be coming with me."
"What? He said everything was planned."
"Plans have changed and I don't want to talk about it. I love you and I'll see you tomorrow." I got off the phone as quickly as I could.
I'm still crying; I just didn't want mama to know. She's got enough on her plate without worrying about me, too.
Show me another picture of some Iraqi asswipe with panties on his head and talk to ME about "torture." If I don't show a whole lot of sympathy, you'll just have to forgive my hard heart or kiss my Cracker ass. I believe that I have a pretty good idea of what torture is all about. I've had a god-dam bellyfull of it over the past three years and I'm not sure how much more I can take.
Excuse me. I've got some more crying to do.
God bring your boy home more often to you this new year, Rob. You'tre in my thoughts.
you didnt finish what she was going to say. sounded as if she was going to say "i would rather drop him off... at you." what's wrong with that
I could shoot an Iraqi with panties on his head, and never give it another thought.. It's unfortunate that one can't shoot ex-wives, many of whom are not satisfied with destroying your financial life...they want to destroy you completly. Been there...
I have a son that won't come around me, mainly because I treated his mother horribly...things like giving her all the money she wanted, paying her way through school. All those awful things.
On the other hand, I have a daughter that thinks I hung the moon. I think she is the one that hung it. She loves me unconditionally, and I would die for her.
You have a beautiful daughter, and she loves you very much. Concentrate on that, and try to cut loose the things you really can't fix. Fixing, of a sort, will come later, when Quinton realizes he was just a pawn in the hate game his mother is playing.
I don't think there is a lack of pine trees you can bite down there! *grin*
Be well, my friend. There are quite a few of us out here that care...beats the shit out of me why, but we do.
Just when I think she can't sink any lower...
I can't imagine the pain you're in, Rob. I wish there was something I could do.
I agree with Mandy is that if Jennifer is going to drop Quinton off, there's nothing wrong with that. You're too hot tempered for your own good. I know that some people are better at ticking others off, like Jennifer to you, but you should stay cool when dealing with her. Your temper will not bring you any good, except entertainment to some of your readers. You will just end up loosing your son, which is a very unfortunate thing.
I think you should call Jennifer and apologize for the blow-up and asked if she intended to drop Quinton off at your place and it would be fine with you. I know that this is hard to swallow, but sometimes you need to do things you don't like in order to keep what is important to you. In this case, it's your relationship with your son. He was excited about seeing you and his grandma and his grandma is excited about seeing him. Your five-seconds temper has destroyed that opportunity. It's not fair for either him, his grandma and yourself.
I'm glad I'm getting along better with my own BC, had my son up till yesterday, this is only a day, look at it like that, not as the end of the world or it will eat you up inside. It's a situation thats not in your control so don't beat yourself up over it. Merry Christmas Rob.
Damn that bitch to the fourth circle of hell, two hills over from MY ex.
The BC should be glad that you *want* to be a father to your son, considering that many of us practically have to crawl through broken glass to get our exes to spend time with the children they helped make. You're a good man, Rob. Someday, I promise, karma will come back to bite her in the ass.
You can come and get me, I am going to Waffle House to have waffles and turkey for my christmas dinner, fuckem, Catfish.
I've had a god-dam bellyfull ......rob,thats all a man can do.I have been there and did that shit. All we can do is look a judge in his face and say "thank you"
Don't know if you've looked around the web much, but do you have a 'gatekeeper' situation? Here's a reference link.
Been thru all that, take solace in the fact that Quinton still calls you and is trying to do the right thing, his Mom has'nt been able to turn him. My girls are a little older and they Told my ex that they would be with me Christmas eve and morning, and here they are, have faith that the same effect your Mom had on you, will be the same effect you had/will have on your son.
Hang in there dude. Don't forget, no good deed ever goes unpunished.
That bitch is as heartless as one of my friends moms when we were kids, but guess what ROB--you gotta stay in the game and take the high road because just like my friend some day Quintin's gonna realize that his mother is a heartless cunt who just uses people and there affections to get what she wants. And when that day comes you will have layed the ground work for a great relationship with your son. YOU HAVE TO HANG TO HANG IN THERE THOUGH AND TAKE THE HIGH ROAD. PEOPLE LIKE HER ALWAYS FUCK OVER EVERYBODY JUST LIKE SHE WANTS TO HURT YOU TODAY BUT BROKE QUINTIN'S HEART RIGHT ALONG WITH YOURS. DUDE I'M SO SORRY NO DESERVES THIS SHIT YOUR GOING THROUGH.
I am not a professional, nor do I play one on TV, but here's my opinion for what it's worth. I agree with Mandy and Karmalia that you should have let the BC finish her sentence and, if she was willing to drop him off at your place or your mother's, you should have agreed. This does not in any way excuse her behavior but here's what it boils down to:
You need to spend as much time with your son as you possibly can, and do it by working within the system. You should take *any* opportunity that presents itself, regardless of any limitations that are attached. Your son loves you, that is clear, and he wants to spend time with you. This shows that any attempts she has made to poison him against you have so far failed. But to make sure they continue to do so, you need to interact with him directly as much as possible.
The impression I get is that he is a smart boy and takes after you more than he does her. I've said before that he probably has a good idea what's going on but he's still young and impressionable. You must do what you can to maximize the impression that you make on him.
I don't know you personally but your writings have let me to respect you highly. Your common-sense wisdom should be bound in a book and used to club clueless idiots over the head. Your anger is righteous, but it can still be your undoing. The best revenge you will ever have on your ex is to have Quinton love you more than her and make the right choice between you two when the time comes.
"I will drop Quinton off..." And Rob can watch the sun set and rise, with no sign of her.
You can only get screwed so many times before you start preemptively snapping.
If she was actually a woman of her word and DID do such things as honor the "court order" where both of them are to see their son, then that would be one thing and yes he would be hot tempered.
This is a man who has not seen his child in a long time, has been ever constantly screwed over by this person.
She had no intention of dropping Quinton off, and if he pursued this in court, she would have said she never agreed to. Where is his proof? It was all verbal.
Well, for what it's worth, Merry Christmas.