February 19, 2005
When I went to Winterhaven, Florida once, I stayed at Burma's house for a few days. She was out of town one of her oldser's trips at the time, so I accepted her offer to make myself at home, which was a mistake. I was probably 30 years younger than anyone else in the place and the old men became suspicious of me. I was treated as if I were an alien invader. Boy, did I get the hairy-eyeball from those old farts.
Nobody liked me (except for a few of the wimmen) and I was happy to get the fuck out out there. Old people can be hostile.
A lot of old people are bitterly upset at being old & infirm, and that anger infects their entire worldview.
Seeing this personality quirk in my grandmother and a few other elderly relatives, at first I thought it was kind of silly. You might as well be upset about the sky being blue, or water being wet.
OTOH, looking at how annoyed I'm getting in my 30's at my disappearing hair and increading arthritis, I'm gonna be one got-damned cheerful SOB by the time I hit my 70's. I'll probably be shaking my cane at all the 'young whippersnappers' and cursing them loudly for not apreciating their youth enough.
My mother-in-law is the poster girl for this. Except, she's always been this way. It's just gotten more toxic as the years go by. Thankfully, she and f-i-l, who buys into all her shit, live in Florida.
They all can be scarily, unreasonably hostile. When it got to the interference point mentally I just shut the door and compartmentalized her out. Not saying I wouldn't go help if they desperately needed it, but, hey. You poop on people often enough and they move on.
Winter Haven.....I can just picture that! Not exactly a "swingin' " town.
It's the Entitlement Mentality.
Old folks think they are owed everything by everybody.
I avoid them like the plague.