June 09, 2006
Years ago, I got a call from a friend to alert me that someone we both knew had died. It was an odd revelation, because I once dated his wife back in high school. She gave me my first French kiss after a Junior High sock-hop, and I played football with her husband for eight years.
I went to the funeral.
After that somber occasion, Nancy asked me to come home with her. I did, thinking that a good friend might be able to console her after a traumatic life-experience. I ended up sleeping with her that night.
That's NOT what I was aiming for. Yeah, we had sex. But I held her all night long while she cried in her sleep and left salty trails all over my bare chest. She twisted and moaned, NOT from the touch of MY hand, but from what was running through her mind. I didn't sleep much that night. I just held her.
In the morning, she cooked me a good breakfast of scrambled eggs, grits and bacon. She wore a flannel housecoat, and as she walked by me once, I grabbed it and opened it up. Yep. She was nekkid underneath. That was a wonderful sight.
We dated for a while after that, but she eventually moved to California and went all crazy-liberal. She married a Chinese-American guy and lived happily ever after, I suppose, because I haven't heard from her in more than 10 years now.
Damn! Would YOU feel guilty for layin' the widow on the night of her husband's funeral?
I don't. MY mistake was lettin' that natural blonde girl get away when I had the chance to catch her.
Wow....well honestly this is one of those things where if you ain't been in those shoes you can't really judge a person or their actions.....
Did you make her cum, Son?
like the man said, "the right woman at the right place at the right time. You just happened to be there for her.
You were at the right place at the right time. No, I do not. He wasn't going to use it anymore.
I don't think I'd feel guilty, it wasn't your intention to "take advantage" of her, only to console her. That's what she needed, that's what you gave.
You know, if she lives in California and she blond and attractive, she probably wants to get in acting.
Your a handsome guy.
Well, you know what I am getting at.
Do it again for the cameras.
When you ripped open her robe in the morning, did you do her right there and then on the breakfast table?
Any woman that goes to bed with another man on the day she just buried her husband is a WHORE.
Maybe you both needed something and found it in eachother? I see nothing wrong with it.
Sometimes when someone loses a spouse, they have relationships right away..sometimes they wait for years. There are always those who criticize the one left behind as though it's disrespect toward the deceased, and as though there is some acceptable timetable for personal business. No one truly knows what the emotional relationships are between a couple, and it's no one else's business to judge. I think what we're doing at any given moment tells us who we really are. The real question IMO, since you're contemplating who you really are today, would be..."did YOU feel guilty laying your friends wife on the day of his death"?
I don't make any judgments on whether it's right or wrong. Everyone deals with grief in their own way. It sounds like a mutual comfort thing to me but if you wanted to keep her, you should have let her get involved with someone else first. Rebound relationships almost never last.
Well you aksed and you got the opinion mongers, all right.
I think the difference is that you were someone special to her in the past. This wasn't some random stranger she glommed on to. I wouldn't want to be in her shoes at that moment with that kind of loss staring me in the face, and then have someone random stranger passing judgement on me later, even if I later decided it might not have been the best choice to make.
Did *you* do the wrong thing? I don't know, it sounds like it's what she needed at that moment to cope.
Although I'd like to think that if I kicked off suddenly, Daisycat wouldn't have the dogs at her door sniffing around for pussy the very next day. A little decorum, measured in time, would be appropriate. A person's not likely to be in a state of mind to be making wise long-term choices at a time like that.
This is where people's understanding of sex and it's complications really shows. You didn't lay the widow..you comforted an old friend and there's a HUGE difference. Sometimes that's the only way to truly express what we feel.
People need what they need. Sometimes what a woman needs is to be held while she cries and a good solid orgasm. Nothing wrong with being the guy to give her that, especially if you were decent and kind to her, and respected her after the fact.
What I'm pissed off about is the fact that you left her go to Cali and become LIBERAL! You BASTARD!!