January 28, 2006
got an opinion?
I saw this post and wondered why I felt the way I did when I looked at the pictures there. ONE of those pictures turned me on. The OTHER ONE gave me a case of the galloping fantods. I'm still wondering why.
I think I'm a sexually uninhibited person and I certainly don't hold any special animosity for homosexuals. (Except for when they display that outrageous in-your-face shit I often see in Gay Pride parades--- and that's more my reaction to insulting, undignified, rude public behavior than it is a reaction to homosexuality.) I believe in "live and let live," "different strokes for different folks" and "whatever blows your dress up." I believe in freedom.
I don't see anything inherently wrong or immoral about homosexuality. Hell, my own daughter is a lesbian. She's not ashamed of that fact and neither am I. I would MUCH RATHER see her with Stacey, the female partner she loves, than with some shitass guy who mistreated her. (I'd KILL that sumbitch!) In MY humble opinion, Samantha and Stacey make a damn good team and Sam has benefitted a great deal from that relationship. I'm happy about it.
But seeing two GUYS play tongue-tag and sexual grab-ass just makes me feel.... ICKY. It's like sticking my hand in a paper bag expecting to find candy and touching something wet and slimy instead. I experience a powerful "EWWWWWWW" reaction.
Why do I react that way? Watching two WIMMEN go at each other certainly doesn't produce the same effect. In fact, THAT scene gets me all hot and horny. I want to jump right in and join the mix, maybe even choreograph some really perverted randy-dancing for the group.
But two GUYS? Sorry... I don't want to dance. I want to run.
Do YOU have that same visceral reaction?
Me, I'm all about camp dick. However, two chicks together evokes imagery of curves and sleekness. Two guys?
Too much extra elbow skin, hair and grunting. Nothing sleek about that.
Because wimmin are hot. At least, those two were. Rowr.
I think Mr Lion has nailed it.
As a normal man, I like women, a lot
I can also understand that other men would like women.
In fact, I like women so much that I understand other women liking women.
Two guys together? Nope, something wrong there.
I just saw "brokeback mt." last week and had the same reaction as you.
I have pleanty of gay/lesbian friends and it does not phase me in the least.
Two girls going at it? Sure, two guys?
Eh, a little creepy.
It comes down to this: what other people do to gratify their sexual nature does not affect anyone else other than the participants. period.
It either interests you or it doesn't.
If it doesn't then the "normal" reaction would be indifference. If you have a stronger reaction then there is someting else at work and it is likely operating underneath your "radar" I'm saying that "something else" is a socially accepted fear of homosexulaity - IE: Homophobia
Homophobia is institutionalised in our society and therefore it seems like the "normal" reaction. It can be a surprising reaction to those who feel that they are open minded and I want to make myself clear that I am not using the term homophobia in a perjorative sense. It might come as a surprise to heterosexual individuals that homosexuals are also subject to being homophobic.
Sam Kinnison said it best. "How can one man look at another's hairy ass and think true love?"
Mister Slippery, you're full of shit.
Homosexuality is not about what does or doesn't make you hot and horny. If you're uncomfortable with seeing two men kiss, reassess your own sexuality and get out of your comfort zone.
If you're uncomfortable with seeing two men kiss, reassess your own sexuality and get out of your comfort zone.
Hey Rob, I think this guy's got the hots for you.
Hey "never", thank you. We are all refreshed and challenged by your unique opinion.
I think libidos are fickle... for me, the poster of the girls has always been a favorite of mine because those two bodies appeal to my libido... males and many females do not appeal to my libido and it has less to do with gender than it does with my libido preferences... I don't get the willies or cringes when two people are sexual or intimate and neither appeals to my libido, but I have not interest in watching them either...
I think the subconscious revulsion for certain physical attributes or acts are ingrained in us at a young age, whatever labels we might put on them... heck, fat people having sex repulses me, though I don't dislike fat people based on their fat... it goes deeper than that...
more than observation, ask yourself how do you react if a gay guy comes on to you, however briefly or discreetly... if you’re first reaction is fight or flight from his version of love, then maybe you’ve been influenced by cultural taboos at a gut level in spite of your mind telling you freedom and live and let live and whatever floats your boat is a more enlightened and sensible attitude…
I think the fact that you acknowledge and explore your feelings with your mind and put them out here on the net demonstrates your open mind and desire to keep opening your mind… kudos to you for that…
Funny thing is, haven't gay activists all been insisting gay people are born that way? So doesn't it follow that straight people are born straight?
So, what could cultural taboos or closed minds possibly have to do with it?
am I to assume that you assume gay activists are right?... I prefer not to, assume, that is... I think people become who they are based on nature and nurture, genes and experience... I know I did :)
I'm not sure what your religious/spiritual beliefs are, but I believe the Bible. I'm also a libertarian, so I agree completely with your live and let live philosophy. Homosexuality is no worse a sin than many others indulged in by those that vocally condemn homosexuality. I'm not quite sure why it gets singled out.
Your question is a common one that I answered a few months ago in a post on my blog. The post is titled "Feminists are self-destructive morons", but if you read the whole thing it will answer your question.
Hubby and I have had that discussion. No question there's a double-standard here. At least for us. Neither one of us has any desire to see two guys going at it.
"Bound" on the other hand...
If I knew two people picked each others' noses I would be disgusted and shun them. That goes double for those who copulate with a bag of bloody shit.
am I to assume that you assume gay activists are right?
Am I to assume you're unfamiliar with the rhetorical question?
Or should I assume that you're claiming not to be what you sounded like initially? Am I to assume you're being honest with your disavowal? If so, why -- I don't know a damn thing about you, do I?
Personally, I rather prefer that state of affairs.
Well, I didn't even go look. Just your description was enough for me to back off. Anything that has to do with man-on-man and sex makes me nauseaus. I have nothing against gays either. I believe in live and let live but for god sake do it where I can't see it. It makes me feel unclean to even think about it. Fucking nasty bastards.
To me, it's a subconcious rejection of what happens a lot in gay male sex - anal sex.
Think about it - if you're in bed with two lovely women, chances are your exit-only apature is going to remain unmolested. But two guys? Someone is getting their ass pounded. And my ass is an exit-only hole. Nothing goes in.
Fecal matter is not a turn on to me, or to 99.99% of both men and women that I know. So the image that conjures up ass pounding is a turn off. The image that conjures up warm, wet, soft and pleasant smelling bedmates is going to be the one that we all gravitate to.