November 14, 2003
the family cemetary
My mama's side of the family all came from prolific breeders. My grandmother was one of 13 children and she had 5 herself. Her sister Chassie had at least 10, I think. I would have to check the family Bible to be sure. I've got a bunch of cousins running around this country, many of whom I will never see.
I know that my dad had a sister who died at the age of 12 and both she and his father are buried on the side of a hill in Kentucky where the mountain has overgrown everything now. I visited those graves once, but I'll never try to go there again. Hell, I have only a vague idea of where my father is buried. I've never been back to the grave since the day he was planted and I probably never will. My father isn't there. That's nothing but a hole in the ground with a box underneath.
I'm not big on visiting grave-sites.
But my Uncle George visited a well-kept cemetary in Clay County, Kentucky, a couple of years ago and he took a video of his visit. He filmed the tombstones of about a dozen children who either died in childbirth or never made it past the age of two. Those were all my relatives.
I never knew them and they all died long before I was born. Still, that video got me all fucked-up. I cried, seeing all of those graves. Bejus, but it must be hard to lose a child and see one die before he or she ever gets a chance at life. I want my son and daughter to scatter my ashes some day. I don't want to bury them first. That's not the way the world should work.
Of course, childbirth was an iffy thing back in those days. I was the first child on either side of my family to be born anyplace other than a bed at home. I actually had a doctor deliver me in a six-room clinic in Kenvir, Kentucky. He had never delivered a baby before I came along. He was almost as proud as my daddy was when the ordeal was over. I believe that I am uncircumsized because the doctor wanted to quit while he was ahead.
Life once was a lot more difficult than it is today. That's why pissant lawsuits over finding a worm in a baked potato or some shitass whining about hot coffee spilled in her lap piss me off so badly.
I think about all of those tiny tombstones I saw on that video.
We don't appreciate how good we have it today.
I'm going to vent on just one small part of your entry, because I feel that it is not discussed thoroughly before the parents of a new-born male child give the doctor permission to do a circumcision.
I believe that circumcision is a barbaric custom. It is a form of child abuse, putting a male child through that pain. How many males after they reached the age of 18 would choose to be circumcised?
What you say is quite true HCL-Man...
My father and I do a lot of genealogy research, and visit a lot of grave sites, as well as peruse death certificates, Bible records (in the old days people wrote all kinds of records about birth, marriage and death in their bibles), county records, etc., etc., etc.
It's amazing how often Death visited the door of parents, just a hundred years ago. We are quite lucky to live in this day and age of modern medicine. It's not perfect, but at least most of us do not have to bury our children for common ailments like dysentery, diarheea, pneumonia, flu, etc., etc., etc.
Acidman, I sent you an e-mail with a more detailed vent on the subject, then I decided to go public with part of it.
Thank you for the space to comment.
Circumcision ~ A child who has this done has a tenth of the infections and rashes than one who has not had this done. If done in a hospitial the child can be numbed and feels nothing. And personally ~ to all you men out there ~ my father said he wished he'd had it done when he was a baby and couldn't remember it because he had to have it done for medical reasons afew years ago. His doctor said the hospitial he works from does a number of adult circumcisionsa week for older patients........
And in regards to large families ~ 13 on my mothers side (Floyd County, KY), 10 on my fathers. My mothers people have a whole hillside all to themselves.
Wash your dick and you don't need a circumcision.
My oldest grandnephew didn't get his circumcision done until he was a week old. (That 24-hour in/out of the hospital doesn't take into account doctor's schedules.) I will always remember changing his diapers and taking care of the wound. He was in pain. Pain that he did not have to have. It is child abuse at its cruelest. Painful to newborns who have no choice in choosing their lifestyle; newborns who have no way to say NO.
Actually it is as barbaric as the circumcision of females in certain cultures that continues to this day.
For one heck of a circumcision story, check out "As Nature Made Him" by John Colapinto.
As for the dead children, some years back I saw an issue of American Heritage that was full of pictures of children of various ages in their beds. All of them were dead. It turns out that this was in the early days of photography when pictures weren't throwaway cheap like they are today. Parents would often take the only pictures they would ever have of their kids just before they planted them.