Gut Rumbles
 

July 21, 2003

i won't call this post "maudlin."

I wasn't certain how that trip to Charleston was going to play out. I mean, Ken and I were good friends a long time ago, but a lot of blood had passed under both our bridges since then. That all happened more than 20 years ago. I wasn't certain that it would be like old times. I wasn't certain that we would even be comfortable together anymore. I wasn't certain that we even spoke the same language.

But our meeting hit as if we had never missed a beat in 20 years. How often do you get a chance to do that? Lose a friend, find him over 20 years later and discover that you feel as if he was never lost. The years vanished as soon as I saw him. We both look a lot different now, but we picked up conversation right where we left off.

One thing really stalled the truck on Memory Lane. Ken asked about several people he remembered, and I said, "He's dead now. Car wreck. That one died about five years ago from cancer and this one died last year of a heart attack and that one comitted suicide..." and telling those stories depressed the shit out of me. I am 51 years old and I remember a lot of dead people in my life now.

But every now and then I run across one of the living that I haven't seen for a long time and it makes me feel really alive.

Going to Charleston was one of the best things I've done in a long time.

Comments

Remembering the dead can really make you appreciate the living with the right people.

Posted by: Da Goddess on July 21, 2003 09:50 PM

Acidman wrote, "But our meeting hit as if we had never missed a beat in 20 years. How often do you get a chance to do that? Lose a friend, find him over 20 years later and discover that you feel as if he was never lost. The years vanished as soon as I saw him. We both look a lot different now, but we picked up conversation right where we left off. "
And that is the difference between REAL friends and casual acquaintances. You are very lucky to have someone like Ken in your life. I have a couple of people in my life like that, years and years go by and yet, when we are together it is as tho we had just been together. It's a nice feeling--what I refer to as a "warm and fuzzy!"

Posted by: Cyn on July 21, 2003 09:56 PM

I went to Florida to see an old friend I hadn't seen in over 20 years this spring, and it was just like you described....we never missed a beat. In fact, here lately, I've heard from and seen several of my friends from high school and older, and I realized they are the people I have most in common with, even if we hadn't been in touch in years. Makes me regret all the wasted years in between and I'm sure I don't want to miss any more.

Posted by: Candy on July 21, 2003 11:43 PM
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