May 28, 2003
A fellow at work who was my maintenance planner for more than five years stopped me in the plant today. I really like John and respect his work ethic a lot. He said, "I met your most excellent son yesterday." John is 60 years old and he lives in Rincon, not far down the road from me.
"My son?" I asked.
"Yeah, I was in Wal-Mart and ran onto Jennifer. She had Quinton with her and I was really impressed with your boy. He's about as polite as any young man his age that I've ever seen. Hell, Rob, he's a good-looking boy, too."
I laughed and said, "Yeah, he is, John. And he's already smarter than you and I put together."
"I don't doubt it," John replied. "Next time you see him, tell him Mr. John said hello."
I'll do that, and Quinton will remember who "Mr. John" is. My boy is that way. He's always been pretty easy to handle, but I believe that he learned the lesson of minding mom and dad from an early age. We never moved any breakables, or put up with any shit out of him when he was in the curious, crawling stage of life. We taught him the meaning of the word "NO!"
He had to learn the hard way, like most kids do when they learn that word, because he got his hand smacked a lot. But he finally understood that Jennifer and I BOTH were serious and that pain would follow an episode of deafness when the "NO!" word was spoken. The truth is, he picked up on the concept pretty rapidly.
In his really formative years, we lived on the mini-farm, where he was free to run the dirt roads and the woods with his friends. He learned quickly then that no matter where he went, one of the neighbors was watching, and the neighbor would tell on the whole bunch of that roundhouse gang if they fucked up. He learned not to do it, because unpleasant consequences always followed.
I believe that I spanked my boy twice in his life. He deserved both, and I delivered on a promise both times. "If you do that again, I'm going to spank your butt." He did it again, and I spanked him. Twice. After that, never no more.
Yeah, I have a fine son. I am very proud of my boy and I miss him a lot. I see him four days every month now, and that's just not right.
You know I adore you........cranky asshole that you are......but when you start complaining that four days a month aren't enough with your son you REALLY piss me off.
Take some of that disposable income you have, get a goddamn lawyer, and go back to court for more days if it bothers you so goddamn much.
As you have been known to say to others, you can't just sit around bitching about things and being a "good loser" because all you are then is a LOSER.
You CAN change the situation.....you have the means. You just need to get off your ass and do it.
End of lecture.
And you also know ILYSCA - but I'm with Da Goddess.
Rob please listen.
You just have to find the strength and go back to court.
Because if you don't she will destroy you anyway a piece at a time.
The stress might even cause you to get secondary cancer.
Why "ex-wife" and not "Bloodless Cunt"?
Why do nice men like you always like the bitches?
There is no way, I repeat no way you will not get joint custody or primary custody.
Especially since she ENDANGERED YOUR SON by having a man that used drugs live in the house with your son.
She is a bad mother she put your son in danger.
Shove that in her face the next time she has a go at you.
What's the next stepfather going to be like?
Lots of stepfathers abuse their stepchildren.
You made her what she is tell her she is nothing, worthless.
Ask her who she slept with to get her job.
You don't really believe that he was the only man she was sleeping around on you with do you???
Only by humbling her will she ease up.
Send an email all around your work saying what she did to you.
And don't let her get to you by cutting her off emotionally.
If you do things like this she will even probably start chasing you again.
Would you take her back?
I hope not.
Nice girls always finish last.
I thought the girl you let go to marry the bc was the love of your life?
Long comment I know.
I love your blog but it is gut wrenching.
take it from someone who's been there... a good lawyer will get you more than you currently have. A decent judge will give you more than 4 days a month....
you are not only entitled to more time with your boy, you are OBLIGATED to more time. Quinton didn't create the situation he lives in, you and your ex (the bloodless cunt, to hear your side of the story) did. It's your obligation to that boy to set things straight and to do the best that you can by him.
GET OFF YOUR FUCKING ASS, GET A LAWYER AND GET MORE TIME WITH YOUR BOY!!!
oh, and what Da Goddezz said.
Please remember that the labels are your own.
Ethics is not necessarily the handmaiden of theology.